Monday, June 27, 2016

THE UNDERDOG RELATIONSHIP (By Default God’s Gift)





I read somewhere, “The fragility of a crystal is not a weakness but a fineness. Though a crystal is easily fragile (breakable) but that quality of crystal doesn’t makes it weak rather it’s fineness make it worthy. Every relationship is fragile. Be it whatever, by everything .I mean everything each of it. The term relationship was not very common to us until each as us were introduced to Facebook and hence what was once a word unknown to us is a must option for teenage kid. I couldn’t find a guy of 13+ who didn’t knew what relationship meant and trust me the term relationship is only girlfriend and boyfriend to them. For them relationship is being complicated, serious or may be single. Relation is self and Soul association with every object living or non-living around us. Be it POPAT LAL`S relationship with his umbrella or someone`s relationship with his Soulmate (Hope that term really exist).

Today I am going to talk about the coolest person we have been in relation with and it`s by default by GOD`S grace. It`s not your mom. It’s our dad .No offense to mom they are cool but dad`s coolest. They have a real swag.

“When I was a child,
I spoke as a child. 
I understood as a child
I thought as a child
But when I become a man.
I put away all childish things.”

This is hell reality with every another person, they postpone their dreams for another great cause and grow up. I don’t know how it’s got to be a grown man but certainly it’s got to be cool like my dad who hasn’t left behind the childish and funny kid inside him .you can talk about idiotism and nonsense to him .for serious decisions stuff he leaves up to your own decisions.
In Indian families father son relationship is most underdog relationship and being a teen with some bullshit and real angles called ‘FRIENDS’. You kind of disconnect with him .you take underrate him a many times but when reality hits you he’s always there for you at the right moment.
   Recently 12th boards result were out. I was really tensed like others with bio and maths both as a subject also I am too good in maths .when I saw the board’s paper I almost cried after seeing the papers. I got good marks as per my expectations but per my mom because Sharma ji’s kid got some 90% marks .I always would ignore his call in exams saying I am studying or before exams cause I would always expect a lecture but on the day of results I had to take the call. He told me few stories about the biggest failures of world and the success they saw ahead .I had not expected it anyway .I thought of a harsh treatment. I felt so good at that moment .i realised that ‘sometimes decisions taken in a nick of moment have power to influence a series of incidents to follow. Maybe it was also because they would have thought I would plan something idiotic after results like several others in newspaper .I am not one of those who give up easily and never giving attitude comes from sports. There was a time in class 6-7 when I was not allowed to play sports or take part in it because my class teacher told my maa that the cause of my falling grades is my craze for cricket. If you are a cricket fan and you love being a part of playing XI and you’re told to just watch and enjoy. It’s what which calls you  For a ‘REBEL’.I had a talk with my dad in phone and he just made maa agree in seconds to let me play and the next day I was practicing with the team . I have the best memories of cricketing days with me. Harsh defeats, sledging and winning matches.
I was really cool when Facebook had the feature I love you mom on mother’s day but on father’s day they had nothing lie on mother’s day.it sounded biased to me. Maa, I love you is easiest thing to say but PAPA,I love you is the hardest because it’s rarest case in boys.  
In early teens, if a guy would call his dad as BAAP. We would befriend with that guy because for us it was an insulting behaviour .now it’s just common among my friends and not like teens here everyone agrees with me. It’s their new cool. Luckily I have not all my friends on this path of new cool. Never have I been to this path because what’s wrong in past is always wrong later, time doesn’t changes the judgement of wrong.
Cricket is the only platform where two men of the house join together, sharing sofa and your dad can only save you from housefly ‘Simar’ during IPL season. You may love your mom to any limits but when comes to cricket your limit is defined.
We have progressed so much since the early age but the father-son relationship has been underdog always. We may express our problems socials, seek advice from various sources but we forget the best advice who have had a life experience of everything .He would scold you for the first 5 min, you don’t go to him. Trust me if you bare the first 5 minutes and hear him .You’ll have the best advice. I have this experience also you’ll have most trusted person with along you.
My father loves Hindi a lot instead of being in English loving counties. He has read every book from 80-90’s and he knows every stories. Whenever I would lose quiz, debate, matches .In fact I have lost every match, quiz or debate inter school.it took almost 2 years to win the first inter school prize. He would always say these lines.   

गिरते हैं शहसवार ही मैदाने ज़ंग में
वो तिफ्ल क्या गिरे जो घुटनों के बल चले

It says “One who ride horses in battlefield fall down not them who crawl”.
It’s not important to be strong but feel strong and with your father’s accompany you feel that .you feel the strongest with him by your side.
Keep loving your dad.
And if you really wanna hear a true dad-son talk watch this video by Zakhir khan. 


It’s one man’s journey who fights single handed and curbs his sorrow and pain and continues to work how unhappy he is in order to let you feel happy .Never leave him alone or befriend him. He’s your FATHER.

"Love your DAD because he always loves you."

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